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Kathy-JynTo My Love November 11 有没有体会幸福才最重要60年代的人和更前出生的人，特别是我们的父辈，他们的肩上一直背负着很重很重的责任，这种责任很难让他们能够轻松地“为自己活”。他们更多是为家庭活的，是为子女活的，是为工作单位活的，为父母活的，等等，他们觉得很累。他们是最具牺牲的一群人，是最能舍去自身利益与感受的一群人，是最能关注别人利益淡化自我要求的人。 也许有人说，现在七八十年代出生的人已经很“我”了吧，是的，他们确实更能够注重自我感受和想法，可是却未必能够拥有自己。这不是危言耸听，自己不能拥有自己，是现在大多男男女女、老老少少活得不快乐的根源。我们都能看到，现在通讯越来越发达，生活条件也越来越好，城市也越来越美。可是人们的脸上快乐的表情越来越少。对于年轻人，大家都在努力争取高薪，争取高位，争取高学历，可是高薪高位高学历以后还是不快乐。我们到底在追求什么？什么对我们是最重要的？我们到底想要什么？ 对于成功，我们似乎已经有了一个模式，就是考上好大学，就是在名企工作，就是出国留学，就是开公司做老板，就是家产至少百万，男人能找个漂亮温柔贤惠知书达礼的女人，女人就是能找个事业有成的男人。因为这样的“成功”模式，我们活得不成功，不快乐，活不出生命的华彩。 每次演讲之后都有人发邮件给我，告诉我他们的梦想。比如有人就跟我说，他的梦想就是当老板，还有一位朋友发信给我说，他的梦想就是当世界五百强的老板，等等。人有梦想真好，人因梦想而伟大，我由衷地支持他们的梦想，欣赏他们的梦想。不过我还是会问他们，什么对你是最重要的？ 我们都想能够掌握自己的命运，男人是，女人也是。而掌握自己的命运不是最重要的，因为比掌握命运更重要的是，掌握自己的心灵。听说《圣经》有句话，我觉得很好：“试着了解真实的自己，你才能获得自由。”是的，了解真实的自己，倾听内心最深处的声音，探询自己最深切的渴望。很多时候，我们并不清楚自己真正想要什么，因为我们很多时候，只是为了证明自己很有能力，只是为了活给别人看的。 有朋友失恋了，他说，我一定要好好干，证明给她看我会有多成功！ 又有一朋友失恋了，她说，我一定会找个比他更好的男人，让他为自己的决定后悔。 这样的想法我们是不是很常见？是不是自己也有过这样的想法？ 不管是追求事业的成功，还是追求生活上的幸福，其实都是活给自己看的，为什么要活给别人看呢，毕竟一生陪伴自己的只有自己啊。每个人都是可以很快乐的，我们都有一把开启快乐之门的钥匙，可是很多时候我们把快乐的钥匙给了别人。 工作不顺利，心情郁闷，我们把快乐的钥匙交给了工作；被老板批评了，心里委屈，我们又把快乐的钥匙交给了老板；恋人不在身边，或者离开了我们，我们茶饭不思，我们把快乐的钥匙交给了恋人；有时候，我们还会把钥匙交给天气，下雨天就很烦，天热也会烦；更多时候，我们又因为身上没有太多钱而感觉自己一无所有…… 能在事情顺利的情况下保持快乐的心情没有什么大惊小怪，而我们需要培养的就是在不如意的情况下，甚至在别人认为很失败很凄惨的情况还能保持心灵天空的晴朗和明净。这才是真正的快乐的能力。 将来，我对我的孩子，不会苛求他的学历怎么样，事业怎么样，更不会在电脑、英语、钢琴、绘画这些方面去培养能力，我最需要培养的是他的快乐的能力。我知道，只要具备了快乐的能力，只要真正能够做到自己拥有自己，他就能健康地活着，自信地活着，与人群和谐相处地活着，他就能迎接人生所有的风雨，并能为别人带来阳光灿烂。毕竟，事业上的成功不是最重要的，有没有成就感才是最重要的；其实，有没有成就感也不是最重要的，生活能不能幸福才是最重要的；当然，幸福不幸福也不是最重要的，有没有体会幸福的能力才最重要。 －中国青年 December 13 Tell Me Why-by Declan GalbraithVery touching.
Tell me Why
Declan Galbraith - a very talented young singer.
In my dream,children sing A song of love for every boy and girl The sky is blue and fields are green: And laughter is the language of the world Then i wake and all i see Is a world full of people in need Chorus: Tell me why(why) does it have to be like this? Tell me why (why) is there something i have missed? Tell me why (why) cos i don't understand When so many need somebody We don't give a helping hand Tell me why? Everyday i ask myself What will i have to do to be a man? Do i have to stand and fight To prove to everybody who i am? Is that what my life is for To waste in a world full of war? chorus: (children)tell me why?(declan)tell me why? (children)tell me why?(declan)tell me why? (together) just tell me why, why, why? chorus: chorus chant: Tell me why (why,why,does the tiger run) Tell me why(why why do we shoot the gun) Tell me why (why,why do we never learn) Can someone tell us why we let the forest burn? (why,why do we say we care) Tell me why(why,why do we stand and stare) Tell me why(why,why do the dolphins cry) Can some one tell us why we let the ocean die? (why,why if we're all the same) Tell me why(why,why do we pass the blame) Tell me why (why,why does it never end) Can some one tell us why we cannot just be friends? Why,why October 01 Oct 1, 2006My mom left to Beijing this morning. I saw her off at Toronto Pearson Airport and felt quite empty at heart afterwards. It’s not like this is the first time that we’re apart, far from it. But each time there’s something different about it. When I was little, my mom had to go to three-day Military Training with her students once a year to somewhere outside of Beijing. So for three straight days, I would cry my eyes out. According to my Grandma, all I did was eat, cry, and sleep. Impressive, huh? I think it takes some kind of determination to cry for three straight days. When I get older, I’m more comfortable with the farewell occasion. I was able to control myself not to be tearful all the time. One year she had to go to Switzerland for a School Road Trip and was gone the whole three weeks. It was hard on me at first, but then I got two postcards from her from Switzerland, which was a wonderful surprise and definitely helped cheer me up a lot. Finally when she came back with packs and packs of Swiss Chocolates and mechanical pencils, I was so happy that I forgot all the tearful moments of the past three weeks. It’s almost hard to tell what I was really happy about: my mom or the chocolates. J The first time we’re really leaving each other though was first year at Western. It was the end of orientation week and my mom had to leave to the States. We came down from my dorm together, both of us were quiet for a second then busted into tears simultaneously. It’s the first time that I know in my heart that she won’t be by my side for a long time. When I came to Canada, she came with me. When I decided to go to the East Coast for Post-secondary education, she came with me. And now we have to be apart, not a matter of days or weeks, but months. Not until that moment, I didn’t realize how important she is in my life. Luckily, she came back in three months. I moved out of the dorm and we were back living together again, at our new place. But it’s not until two months later that she had to leave again. She had to go to Pennsylvania. I drove her to the Greyhound station and watched she leaves. It was quite early in the morning and I had two classes in the afternoon. But I felt so empty in my heart after that I couldn’t gather myself together to go to class. There were a few times after that, but I got more used to it time after time because I know she’ll be back, soon enough. Today, she’s leaving to Beijing, for a few months. Time has changed, so was the place. It seems like it’s a wole new farewell experience that I have to get used to. Now I’m at my apartment in Toronto staring at the bed beside me, yesterday this time she was sitting right here chatting with me, and now she’s gone. It’s a big heartache, and nothing can ease the pain. This is part of growing up, your parents leave you in some ways so you have to start your own family. It is painful but it is also inevitable. However, knowing all that, I’ll be going back to see her and my dad this upcoming Chinese New Year. I will take two weeks off work and spend my Chinese New Year in Beijing first time in the past five years! That’s definitely something I’ll be looking forward to. J September 10 SundayIt's a wonderful day outside today. Sunny, but not hot, rather chilly - my kind of day. This kind of day always encourages laziness in me. Slept in till 9 o'clock, read some newspaper, had some breakfast..really taking my time. I'm going to work later, but since it's such a nice day, I decide to walk. It'll take about 1.5 hours. It'll be a nice workout. Imagine everyday is like this, I wouldn't be able to get anything done! lol. But it's important to relax and rest, both physically and metally.
Jinny is playing with her ball right now, but was attacking my feet earlier. I noticed she likes everything string-like. i.e. the cables, power cords, and my earrings. She literally jumped on me earlier just to play with my earrings. Oh Jinny, why are you so cute? :) September 02 N/AMy apologies to whoever was waiting here to see something for the past three months. I have been busy with both work and study. Hewitt* is a very good company, since they allow you to do a lot of the advanced, technical stuff that you may never get a chance to do in other companies if you don't stay long enough. Summer is the busiest time for consulting, since that's when a lot of the documents and valuations are due. I don't mind long hours at all, as a matter of fact, I feel really bored if there isn't enough work to do. But from now on, even if I do have some free time, I should go back and review some of the calcuations that I've done. Just so I really understand why I did what I did, not plainly copying the formulas from somewhere else. I'm still busy studying too, before August it was P, now it's C that's coming up in November. The Plan is having four exams and first level CFA before I finish my internship next August. I'm earning 40,000 right now, but with 4+1 exams and 1.33 yrs of experience, it should go up to 70,000 with no difficulty. I'm working on getting my Actuary title and CFA before I turn 29, which is not very uncommon. There are quite a few people at Hewitt had done that.
Family life is very important to me, but given that, did I say that I'll sacrifice my career for family? I'm sure there's a way to balance those two. Thank you, Jonathan, for always being there and supportive of me. I appreciate that a lot. :) Oh speaking of family, I just got a black kitten last Friday, whose birthday is 10 days after mine - July 13. It seems like my hamster and my kitten get along just fine, which is comforting. I'll post some pictures in the future.
*For the people who don't know what Hewitt is, it's a global Human Resources consulting and outsourcing firm that rank 633 in Fortune 500. I work in the Retirement Financial Management Sector as an actuarial student. www.hewitt.com May 31 WorkGoing to work is more tiring than going to school, I find.
Not only do I have to make sure I do my job well at work, but also passing SOA exams in my spare time. I'm the type who takes things very seriously (Graydon had teased me about that. When we were planning on the Montreal trip together last winter, I insisted on putting all possible details on the travel agenda, so our time would be precisely budgeted). It's almost impossible for me to leave a job undone, or un-beautifully (I doubt if this is a word, haha) finished. This is where the perfectionism comes in. Since I was little, not only I want to get a project down, I also want it to look pretty (actually, I think most girls do). When comes to work, I don't just want to finish a job, I want to do well in it. And I don't want to start a brand new case tomorrow without taking a look at it tonight - to at least see what it's about. I admit it can be very time-consuming right now, but I believe it's a good habit to get into - it may saves lots of time in the long run.
It is not until I started working I realize how old-fashioned our ways of working in Excel are. And I'm sure that can be applied to more than one program. It would be great if next year's ASUA offer some intense Excel and/or Access training, with possibly introductions to more actuarial program i.e. ProVal, AXIS. - Jon, this is for you. :)
I'm not sure why am I blogging 12:35 in the morning instead of going to bed..oh right, I'm not sleepy..yet. Maybe more SOA study! May 24 愛一個人愛一個人， 要了解，也要開解； 要道歉，也要道謝； 要認錯，也要改錯； 要體貼，也要體諒； 是接受，而不是忍受； 是寬容，而不是縱容； 是支持，而不是支配； 是慰問，而不是質問； 是傾訴，而不是控訴； 是難忘，而不是遺忘； 是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代； 是為對方默默祈求，而不是向對方諸多要求； 可以浪漫，但不要浪費； 可以隨時牽手， 但不要隨便分手。 有信心不一定會成功，沒有信心一定不會成功。 開心一下囉~~~多想想快樂的事!!能解決的事，不必去擔心；不能解決的事，擔心也沒用。★☆★~ __________________________________________________ 1. 遇到你真的愛的人時 要努力爭取和他相伴一生的機會 因為當他離去時.一切都來不及了.... 2. 遇到可相信的朋友時 要好好和他相處下去 因為在人的一生中.可遇到知己真的不易 3. 遇到人生中的貴人時 要記得好好感激 因為他是你人生的轉折點 4. 遇到曾經愛過的人? ?記得微笑向他感激 因為他是讓你更懂愛的人 5. 遇到曾經恨過的人時 要微笑向他打招呼 因為他讓你更加堅強 6. 遇到曾經背叛你的人時 要跟他好好聊一聊 因為若不是他今天你不會懂這世界 7. 遇到曾經偷偷喜歡的人時 要祝他幸福唷！ 因為你喜歡他時 不是希望他幸福快樂嗎？ 8. 遇到匆匆離開你人生的人時 要謝謝他走過你的人生 因為他是你精采回憶的一部分 9. 遇到曾經和你有誤會的人時 要趁現在解清誤會 因為你可能只有這一次機會解釋清楚 10.遇到現在和相伴一生的人 要百分百感謝他愛你 因為你們現在都得到幸福和真愛 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ~傳給妳想珍惜的人~ 幸福是靠自己去爭取的~不管是友情或愛情很多事情~~錯過了就沒有了,錯過了就是會變的-- April 14 coffee coffee coffee
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A little bit stubborn?? Are you kidding me, I'm VERY stubborn! As it is said earlier, once I decided to do something, unless I change my mind myself, it's impossible for anyone to interfere with my decision. April 13 Interesting QuizYou scored as Mathematics. You should be a Math major! Like Pythagoras, you are analytical, rational, and when are always ready to tackle the problem head-on!
April 11 ChrissieNew pictures of Chrissie. It turns out that not only Chrissie is a professional cage biter, he also is a huge fan of fantasy sports. Last time, when Jonathan was reading his sport magazine, Chrissie went over and read the magazine with him!..and magically stayed still for like five minutes (that page was baseball stats), till Jonathan flip the page (the new page is a news story)! lol, Chrissie, just because both me and Jonathan are in stats, you don't have to become a stats hamie! March 22 ChrissieFor some reason, Chrissie whined in his dream yesterday. Jonathan thought maybe he had a nightmare. (Do hamsters have nightmares??) I was really worried about him because I thought he might ate something off the carpet when he escaped the other day. It scared me because I've never heard him whine like that before. But by nighttime, Chrissie was proved to be perfectly fine, as he was biting the cage like crazy again, hoping to get out. It's part of the daily rountine for him now: eating, sleeping, eating in his sleep, flicking his poop around in his bed with his eyes closed,running on his wheels, peeing while running on his wheels, and of course, biting on his cage. |
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